What’s the difference between coaching and therapy?
Coaching is a process of helping clients, usually through a series of meetings or conversations, achieve a particular goal. It is not about diagnosing or treating a mental health condition nor going deeply into the past, coaching is primarily forward-focussed. Rather than give advice or provide solutions, coaching is about guiding clients towards finding their own solutions by asking relevant questions, helping clients to reflect on where they are and where they would like to be and sometimes acting as an accountability partner.
What kinds of issues can coaching help me with?
There is (almost) no limit to the issues coaching can help with, but some examples include:
* Finding your lost mojo * Rebooting your career * Imposter syndrome * Improving your relationships * Life stage changes* Anger management * Overcoming specific challenges* Health and weight management * Achieving work/life balance* Confidence issues * Social anxiety * Adopting and embedding positive new habits * Managing the chaos *
Do you specialise in a particular kind of coaching?
I would like everyone to be living their best life. So often we find we are going through the motions, accepting that things are how they are and can’t be changed. That’s where I like to step in and help people find or regain their lost mojo, avoid what I call ‘is this it?’ syndrome and start to consciously curate their lives as best they can.
Is everyone a suitable candidate for coaching?
Pretty much! Coaching is suitable for anyone who has a problem or issue they would like to address or feels something is missing in their life even if they don’t know what, and is willing to change.
How do I know how many sessions to book?
Most people find that around 6 sessions works well but this is something we can keep under review. If you find that 3 sessions is enough, then you won’t be held to having more if you don’t need them. And if you want to extend by 1, 2 or more, then that’s fine too. You can find more detail here (to T&Cs)
Will I have to do ‘homework’ in between sessions?
That’s up to you! If you like completing exercises or being given reading, or being sent reflection points after sessions, that’s all fine but it’s equally OK not to.
Are the sessions face to face or online? Will I lose out by doing coaching online and not in person?
Most people find online sessions via a platform such as Zoom works well for them in providing an experience that feels authentic but is time-efficient. If you would prefer to meet in-person, though, let me know when you book your free introductory call and we can take it from there.
Why don’t coaches give advice?
Coaches don’t give advice because the person best-placed to make decisions about their life is you! Our role is to help you take the best decisions in the circumstances, free of bias, judgement or the weight of our own experience.
How do I know we’ll get on?
You don’t! That’s why I offer a free session so we can each find out a little more about each other and decide together whether we think we are a good fit. By the way, being a ‘good fit’ does not mean becoming best mates! It about you deciding whether you feel you can relax enough in my company to share what’s on your mind, and me making an assessment as to whether I think I am the right person to help you. If I feel I am not, for whatever reason, I will always endeavour to help you find someone else.
Do you have any training or qualifications?
Yes! I have accreditation with the EMCC (European Mentoring and Coaching Council). While anyone can call themselves a coach, I felt it was important to undergo thorough training and this has given me all the practical and theoretical tools I need, and the confidence to know what I am doing as well as who to turn to in the event of any issues. And it gives my clients the confidence to know I have been thoroughly trained, and to have recourse to a professional body in the unlikely even of a problem.
I have completed 165 hours of training with Coaching Minds to achieve a Diploma in Transformational Coaching at Practitioner Level 5. The certification programme is accredited by the European Mentoring and Coaching Council. My training included following a five-part course covering everything from ethics to Cognitive Coaching and the practicalities of running effective coaching sessions, as well as attending live seminars and workshops, passing an ethics exam, carrying out 40+ hours of coaching, including some observed sessions, and a practical exam.
Is my data and what I say private?
Absolutely. I adhere to Data Protection laws and am governed by the EMCC Code of Ethics, which you can find more about here.
Is coaching expensive?
That is a very subjective question! But I guess it comes down to both affordability and the priority you place on resolving what isn’t working for you. I have endeavoured to make my prices fair, and to offer packages at reduced rates. If you see the value in paying for, say, a trainer, or nutritionist, or massage then you may also recognise that spending on your mental health and wellbeing might be a superb investment.
Why can’t I just talk to my friends about what’s on my mind?
While we all like to be there for our friends and to chat through the problems or issues of the day, coaching is a more focussed and in-depth experience, offering a space outside of everyday life. Usually our friends are not impartial – they are on our side, right where we expect them to be! Also, they are not usually trained listeners and are likely to offer advice, whereas coaching is not about the coach telling you what they think but helping you to discover what you think! A good coach is impartial, non-judgemental, and will keep everything you say in the strictest confidence*.
Are you available outside of formal sessions if I need to run something by you?
In principle, yes. This is something we would discuss when you sign up for your sessions, but the kind of out-of-session support I can offer includes sending you reflection notes and potentially text, WhatsApp or phone calls.
What happens if I’m not happy with your service?
In the first instance I would ask you to discuss your issue with me in the hope that we can resolve it satisfactorily. In the unlikely event that that didn’t work, there is a process you could follow which would include external arbitration, see here for more details.
You don’t know me so how will you know what’s best for me?
I won’t know what’s best for you, but you will! My role is to help you tease out your own solutions. Through sensitive and appropriate questions and gentle exploration, I will endeavour to help you get to the root of whatever is not working for you, and to uncover the solution that already exists within you. Sometimes we simply can’t see the wood for the trees, so I will help you navigate that path.
